Monday, February 8, 2010

Khaandaan Ka Paandaan....cont.

Shayar bhi hoon, Gayak bhi hoon

I doubt if there is anyone, outside the family circle who knows that your great grandfather used to write beautiful shayri, and he could play the harmonium very well and sing equally well. But trust me to know this better than anyone within the family too….poocho kyun!

Well it goes like this……One day Mummy saw me dancing away to glory, Indian filmi style, to some song that was playing on the radio. I had taken a dupatta of hers and pinned it over my head and I was so engrossed in my swirling and twirling, I didn’t realize I had an audience. It was only when she couldn’t suppress her laughter any longer and it burst out loudly, that I came to an abrupt halt and boy, did I feel embarrassed or what! The whole world would get to know. Joy who could always be found playing Cowboys and Red Indians or Cops and Robbers with the boys; the catty-toting Joy was dancing like a sissy! I knew I had a few fights on my hands to re-establish my reputation of a tough girl. Especially since at seven, I still managed to hold my ground, with our group of boys most of whom, were older than I.

That evening when Daddy came back from work this was the ‘Breaking News.’ Ah! Once again, bless him! Daddy was overjoyed and full of praise. No joking, no teasing…..and to everyone’s surprise he declared that now he’d have to buy me a pair of ghungroos! Mummy was flabbergasted. I was stumped. Ghungroos, for me! My reputation was gone.

Later, after dinner, I sat in his lap and told him he didn’t have to buy me ghungroos. He replied that it helped to keep the beat. I countered that I could maintain the rhythm and beats without them. He insisted. I desisted. He realized there was something else on my mind. I blurted it out.

“Everyone will laugh at me.”

“We won’t tell anyone.”

“Jasper and Mummy will.”

“I will tell them not to.”

“Then it’s ok.”

One Sunday, in the early afternoon, Daddy called me. He was sitting in the drawing-room with the harmonium on a table in front of him. He told me to get a dupatta and a few minutes later, with the odhni on my head and ghungroos around my ankles, I was dancing with gay abandon as Daddy played the harmonium and sang with a spirit that matched my own.

What can you say about such a man, who understood not only the latent love of music, rhythm and dance but also the spirit that longed to be free, in the heart of his little girl and gave her these precious moments. “Panchchi banun udhti phirun mast gagan mein, aaj main aazaad hoon duniya ke chaman mein.
Always nurture the talents you have. Give in to the creative urges of your faculty.

Later on, at the age of nine, I did join Kuchipudi classes in Delhi, and although I couldn’t continue with it for various reasons, I developed a sort of grace in my movements and gestures which has been one of my assets as a woman and as a teacher.




Ghungroo.......little round bells tied around dancers anklets

Dupatta, odhni........both terms are used for a head cover, usually made of fine muslin, chiffon or georgette.

"Panchchi banoo udti chaman mein"........I want to be a bird and fly in the sky. Today I am a free bird in the gardens of the world.

Kuchpudi.......a classical Indian dance form



  1. What a wonderful memory, your father sounds like a wise man. I so enjoy reading your blog and getting a glimpse into another kind of lifestyle.

  2. Marlene,I'm so glad I can show you a different culture and lifestyle. Yes, my father was wonderful.